Selasa, 30 Juli 2013

Tips On Dealing With Domestic Abuse Stories

By Maryanne Goff


If you work in a field where you hear domestic abuse stories being told to you every so often, understand that it took these people courage and effort to be able to get these stories out of their system. Understand that the whole experience was a traumatic one for them. So, it is never something that you can just brush off casually.

You have to approach your job and the people that you talk to and attend to every time with the proper attitude and the proper outlook. You will find that many of these people would come to you and ask for your advice. Make sure that the way you address their concerns and attend to their issues is exactly dine in the most sensitive, proper way possible. They deserve that.

Many people who had this same ordeal in the past always find it hard to talk about them because of the fact that they are afraid of the stigma that is often associated with the experience. They often seem to think that somehow, they were at fault as to why these things happened to them. Hence, making sure that you will consider these factors is always critical.

Assure them that you will be there to listen. You are there to help them get over whatever bad things that they have to go through because of the experiences they had. Explain to them that are going to offer your help as best as you can. This would at least help them loosen up their grips on their innermost emotions and allow you to get to know them a lot better.

Do not judge. It is not for you to say that they were the ones at fault or not. It is not for you to say if they were the ones who initiated what had happened to them. What matters now is that these things have passed and they are on their way to recovery. Your goal here is to help them get back on track again. Always remember that.

Tell them that healing is not always easy and is not always fast. Everybody has his own way of dealing with such issues as well. Every one has a different coping mechanism. So, do tell them to take their time in coping with the issue.

Offer encouragements. Egg them on. Tell them that their life definitely did not stop when they were abused by their better halves. Tell them that their coming forward and coming to terms with everything that has happened to them is their new beginning. Explain to them that now is about the best time for them to get on with their lives and show to those who abused them before what they really are worth of.

Advise people with domestic abuse stories to join a support group. Somehow, it is always easier for these individuals to get back on their two feet again when they have other people who understand them most to support them. They will find too, that the encouragement of the people who experienced the same thing is going to make it easier for them to heal along the way.




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